American Bishops on Contraception

Some of you may remember a while ago that I said I'd write a post about contracpetion...well, I won't fail in my promise! I have been working on it, but it started getting kinda long and theological, and so I had to re-work on it....so it's taking a while!

In the mean-time...look what I got emailed:

What joy! A beautiful document all about marriage and contraception from the American Bishops!
It is really great & is set out in a question & answer format in a very digestable way (I have reproduced it below)



Married Love and the Gift of Life
Getting married. What a blessed and hope-filled time.

Men and women considering marriage yearn for certain things. They want to be accepted
unconditionally by each other. They want their marriage to be filled with love and happiness.
They want a family. In short, they want their marriage to be a source of joy and fulfillment their
whole life long.
God’s plan for marriage, from the time he first created human beings as male and female,
has always included all this and more. The desire and ability of a man and woman to form a
lasting bond of love and life in marriage is written into their nature.

In the Rite of Marriage (1969) a man and woman are asked if they will love one another
faithfully and totally—in short, if they will love as God loves. “Have you come here freely and
without reservation to give yourselves to each other in marriage?” asks the bishop, priest, or
deacon. “Will you love and honor each other as man and wife for the rest of your lives? Will you accept children lovingly from God, and bring them up according to the law of Christ and his Church?”

These are different ways of asking the same basic question: Are you ready to acceptthis person, and all that may come from your union, completely and forever?

The spouses seal their love and commitment through their sexual union. Many today find
it difficult to understand how profound and meaningful this union is, how it embodies these
promises of marriage. Our culture often presents sex as merely recreational, not as a deeply
personal or even important encounter between spouses. In this view, being responsible about sex simply means limiting its consequences—avoiding disease and using contraceptives to prevent pregnancy.

This cultural view is impoverished, even sad. It fails to account for the true needs and deepest desires of men and women. Living in accord with this view has caused much loneliness and many broken hearts.

God’s plan for married life and love is far richer and more fulfilling. Here sexuality is the source of a joy and pleasure that helps the spouses give themselves to each other completely and for their entire lives.

What does the Church teach about married love?

Marriage is more than a civil contract; it is a lifelong covenant of love between a man and a woman. It is an intimate partnership in which husbands and wives learn to give and receive love
unselfishly, and then teach their children to do so as well. Christian marriage in particular is a
“great mystery,” a sign of the love between Christ and his Church (Eph 5:32).

Married love is powerfully embodied in the spouses’ sexual relationship, when they most
fully express what it means to become “one body” (Gn 2:24) or “one flesh” (Mk 10:8, Mt 19:6).

The Church teaches that the sexual union of husband and wife is meant to express the full
meaning of love, its power to bind a couple together and its openness to new life. When
Scripture portrays God creating mankind “in his image” (Gn 1:27), it treats the union of man and woman as joining two persons equal in human dignity (“This one, at last, is bone of my bones / and flesh of my flesh,” Gn 2:23), and as being open to the blessing of children (“Be fertile and multiply,” Gn 1:28).


What does this have to do with contraception?

A husband and wife express their committed love not only with words, but with the language of
their bodies. That “body language”—what a husband and wife say to one another through the
intimacy of sexual relations—speaks of total commitment and openness to a future together.

So the question about contraception is this: Does sexual intercourse using contraception faithfully affirm this committed love? Or does it introduce a false note into this conversation?

Married love differs from any other love in the world. By its nature, the love of husband
and wife is so complete, so ordered to a lifetime of communion with God and each other, that it
is open to creating a new human being they will love and care for together. Part of God’s gift to
husband and wife is this ability in and through their love to cooperate with God’s creative power.
Therefore, the mutual gift of fertility is an integral part of the bonding power of marital
intercourse. That power to create a new life with God is at the heart of what spouses share with
each other.

To be sure, spouses who are not granted the gift of children can have a married life that is
filled with love and meaning. As Pope John Paul II said to these couples in a 1982 homily, “You
are no less loved by God; your love for each other is complete and fruitful when it is open to
others, to the needs of the apostolate, to the needs of the poor, to the needs of orphans, to the
needs of the world.”

When married couples deliberately act to suppress fertility, however, sexual intercourse
is no longer fully marital intercourse. It is something less powerful and intimate, something more “casual.” Suppressing fertility by using contraception denies part of the inherent meaning of married sexuality and does harm to the couple’s unity.

The total giving of oneself, body and soul, to one’s beloved is no time to say: “I give you everything I am—except. . . .”

The Church’s teaching is not only about observing a rule, but about preserving that total, mutual gift of two persons in its integrity.

This may seem a hard saying. Certainly it is a teaching that many couples today, through
no fault of their own, have not heard (or not heard in a way they could appreciate and
understand). But as many couples who have turned away from contraception tell us, living this
teaching can contribute to the honesty, openness, and intimacy of marriage and help make
couples truly fulfilled.

Why does saying “yes” to children at the altar mean never using contraception to close the act of intercourse to new life?

Some argue that if a husband and wife remain open to children throughout their marriage, they
need not worry about using contraception occasionally. But practicing what is good most of the
time does not justify doing what is wrong some of the time.

Even if I see myself as a truthful person “on the whole,” any occasional lie I tell is still a
lie, and so is immoral. By such acts, I begin to make myself into the kind of person who lies.
This is no less true when we falsify the “language of the body,” speaking total love and
acceptance of the other person while denying an essential part of that message.

A couple need not desire or seek to have a child in each and every act of intercourse. And
it is not wrong for couples to have intercourse even when they know the wife is naturally
infertile, as discussed below. But they should never act to suppress or curtail the life-giving
power given by God that is an integral part of what they pledged to each other in their marriage
vows. This is what the Church means by saying that every act of intercourse must remain open to life and that contraception is objectively immoral.

“[Natural Family Planning] has become more than a totally safe, healthy,
and reliable method of birth regulation to us. The essential qualities of self-restraint, self-discipline, mutual respect, and shared responsibility carry over to all facets of our marriage, making our relationship more intimate.” (Faithful to Each OtherForever, 44)

Are couples expected to leave their family size entirely to chance?

Certainly not. The Church teaches that a couple may generously decide to have a large family, or
may for serious reasons choose not to have more children for the time being or even for an
indefinite period (Humanae Vitae, no. 10).

In married life, serious circumstances—financial, physical, psychological, or those
involving responsibilities to other family members—may arise to make an increase in family size
untimely. The Church understands this, while encouraging couples to take a generous view of
children.

What should a couple do if they have a good reason to avoid having a child?

A married couple can engage in marital intimacy during the naturally infertile times in a
woman’s cycle, or after child-bearing years, without violating the meaning of marital intercourse
in any way.

This is the principle behind natural family planning (NFP). Natural methods of family
planning involve fertility education that enables couples to cooperate with the body as God
designed it.

“NFP does require communication and commitment, but isn’t that
what marriage
is all about? We have gained so much by using
NFP and have lost nothing.”
(Natural Family Planning Blessed
Our Marriage, 18)

What is natural family planning?

Natural family planning is a general name for the methods of family planning that are based on a
woman’s menstrual cycle.

A man is fertile throughout his life, while a woman is fertile for only a
few days each cycle during the child-bearing years. Some believe that NFP involves using a
calendar to predict the fertile time. That is not what NFP is today. A woman experiences clear,
observable signs indicating when she is fertile and when she is infertile. Learning to observe and
understand these signs is at the heart of education in natural family planning.
When a couple decides to postpone pregnancy, NFP can be very effective. NFP can also
be very helpful for couples who desire to have a child because it identifies the time of ovulation.
It is used by many fertility specialists for this purpose. Thus a couple can have marital relations
at a time when they know that conception is most likely to take place.

Is there really a difference between using contraception and practicing natural family planning?

On the surface, there may seem to be little difference. But the end result is not the only thing that matters, and the way we get to that result may make an enormous moral difference. Some ways respect God’s gifts to us while others do not. Couples who have practiced natural family
planning after using contraception have experienced a profound difference in the meaning of
their sexual intimacy.

When couples use contraception, either physical or chemical, they suppress their fertility,
asserting that they alone have ultimate control over this power to create a new human life. With
NFP, spouses respect God’s design for life and love. They may choose to refrain from sexual
union during the woman’s fertile time, doing nothing to destroy the love-giving or life-giving
meaning that is present.

This is the difference between choosing to falsify the full marital language of the body and choosing at certain times not to speak that language.

The Church’s support for NFP is not based on its being “natural” as opposed to artificial.
Rather, NFP respects the God-given power to love a new human life into being even when we
are not actively seeking to exercise that power. However, because NFP does not change the
human body in any way, or upset its balance with potentially harmful drugs or devices, people of
other faiths or of no religious affiliation have also come to accept and use it from a desire to
work in harmony with their bodies. They have also found that it leads couples to show greater
attentiveness to and respect for each other.

“NFP has helped me mature, though I have a long way to go. . . .
It has called me to cherish my wife rather than simply desire her.”
(Faithful to Each Other Forever, 45-46)

What has been the impact of contraception on society? On married couples?

Many would likely be surprised at how long all Christian churches agreed on this teaching
against contraception. It was only in 1930 that some Protestant denominations began to reject
this long-held position. Those opposed to this trend predicted an increase in premarital sex,
adultery, acceptance of divorce, and abortion.

Later, in 1968, Pope Paul VI warned that the use of contraception would allow one spouse to treat the other more like an object than a person, and that in time governments would be tempted to impose laws limiting family size. Pope John Paul II called attention to the close association between contraception and abortion, noting that “the negative values inherent in the ‘contraceptive mentality’ . . . are such that they in fact strengthen this temptation [to abortion] when an unwanted life is conceived” (Evangelium Vitae, no. 13).

These predictions have come true. Today we see a pandemic of sexually transmitted
diseases, an enormous rise in cohabitation, one in three children born outside of marriage, and
abortion used by many when contraception fails. A failure to respect married love’s power to
help create new life has eroded respect for life and for the sanctity of marriage.

“NFP made our union different, more of a total giving. . . .
Because we’re open to life, we’re giving everything.” (Natural Family Planning
Blessed Our Marriage, 64)

Is it true, as some claim, that some methods of birth control can cause an abortion?

Some methods of birth control are aimed at preventing the union of sperm and egg and therefore act only as contraceptives. These would include barriers such as condoms and diaphragms.

By contrast, hormonal methods such as the Pill may work in several ways. They can
suppress ovulation or alter cervical mucus to prevent fertilization, and thus act contraceptively.
But they may at times have other effects, such as changes to the lining of the uterus. If the
contraceptive action fails and fertilization takes place, these hormonal methods may make it
impossible for a newly conceived life to implant and survive. That would be a very early
abortion. Medical opinions differ on whether or how often this may occur. Currently there is no
way to know precisely how these drugs work at any given time in an individual woman.

Concern about the risk of causing an early abortion is stronger in the case of pills taken
after intercourse to prevent pregnancy (“emergency contraception” or “morning-after pills”). In
some cases these pills are taken when sperm and egg have already joined to create a new life, in
which case the drug could not have any effect except to cause an early abortion.

Conclusion

By using contraception, couples may think that they are avoiding problems or easing tensions,
that they are exerting control over their lives. But the gift of being able to help create another
person, a new human being with his or her own life, involves profound relationships. It affects
our relationship with God, who created us complete with this powerful gift. It involves whether
spouses will truly love and accept each other as they are, including their gift of fertility. Finally,
it involves the way spouses will spontaneously accept their child as a gift from God and the fruit
of their mutual love. Like all important relationships with other persons, it is not subject solely to our individual control. In the end, this gift is far richer and more rewarding than that.

You are not your own; you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your
body. (1 Cor 6:19-20, RSV)

Living God’s design for human sexuality in marriage can be difficult. But husbands and
wives have not been left alone to live out this fundamental life challenge. If you have failed to do
so in the past, do not be discouraged. God loves you and wants your ultimate happiness. Loving
as Christ loves is a possibility opened to us by the power of the Holy Spirit, as a free gift of God.
Through prayer and the sacraments, including Reconciliation and the Eucharist, God offers us
the strength to live up to this challenge. Recall the words of Christ, repeated so often by John
Paul II: “Be not afraid!” The Church’s teaching on marital sexuality is an invitation for men and
women—an invitation to let God be God, to receive the gift of God’s love and care, and to let
this gift inform and transform us, so we may share that love with each other and with the world.

FULL ARTICLE + ADDITIONAL READING RESOURCES HERE


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wooohoooo!

I truely believe, hand on heart, that contraception & divorce are the sole causes of all the moral decline in our society.
Contraception, in all forms, is such a venomous poision to marital relationships, and it is one of Satan's most powerful weapons in the Western world.

Contraception feeds....promiscuity, abortion, adultery, divorce, the undermining and destruction of marriage, the break-down of families,the viewing of people as commodities and objects, IVF, surrogate pregnancy, sperm donation, egg donation, euthanasia, the killing of handicapped babies....I could go on.

Because, at its heart, contraception feeds those fallen streaks within us, of using others for our own benefit, not respecting the natural order of things that God has established, of not exerting any self-control, and of viewing people as objects that are subject to our own will.


No, I don't like it at all.

I will carry on writing up on post on contraception!

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